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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2006 12:56:36 GMT -6
Is settling for something really all that bad?
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Post by robin morbid on Oct 1, 2006 20:25:18 GMT -6
depends on what you're settling for...
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Post by The One & Official MIP of '86 on Oct 2, 2006 20:51:01 GMT -6
What is it, dearie?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2006 20:56:58 GMT -6
I'm settling for...the picture perfect life. It scares me. But I don't feel like I have a choice. Get the masters degree. Marry the man. Have kids. Have the perfect career. It's overwhelming.
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Post by robin morbid on Oct 2, 2006 21:37:49 GMT -6
life isn't "picture perferct"...and you shouldn't think about it so much because if thats something you want then it shouldn't come off as such a bad thing,know what I mean?
Take one thing at a time.Make your life the way you want it.
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Post by The One & Official MIP of '86 on Oct 3, 2006 18:21:11 GMT -6
I'm settling for...the picture perfect life. It scares me. But I don't feel like I have a choice. Get the masters degree. Marry the man. Have kids. Have the perfect career. It's overwhelming. And... how old are you, exactly? I'm 20, have no degree, no ring symbolising anything, and am definitely not planning kids, or branching out to my "perfect" career.... |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2006 21:22:47 GMT -6
I'm 21.
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Post by The Animal on Oct 5, 2006 11:09:04 GMT -6
The whole cookie-cutter American dream: Perfect marriage; happy, successful husband/wife; happy, successful children, terrific job; terrific home; etc etc... It doesn't exist. You can have one, you can have some, but you can't have all.
Plus, you're only 21. Why the rush? I know where I live it's common, almost required for girls to get married young and start poppin' out kids before they're 25, but you don't see me rushing to the alter. And I'm 26. In all respects for Southern women, I'm past my prime. I should have grandkids by now. Sittin' in the rocking chair on the porch, watching the world go by, reminiscing about yesteryear,...teeth in a glass on the porch by my feet...
Don't settle. Live your life.
And you do have a choice. Life is what you make it. No one, and I mean, no one has any right to put any pressure on you to become this...Stepford Wife-type character.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 5, 2006 18:00:01 GMT -6
boonie darling look i have a really crap life i messed up on my gcses and i got a crap job but this is life and and use sineads saying waht cums around cums around so b nice and thts what i'm do look at the bright side ur still in collage i left collage coz i have dun it twice and i hated it but look where i am now i'm getting married in 2 years (carpping my self lol) but thts life cest la vie
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Post by The One & Official MIP of '86 on Oct 5, 2006 21:16:39 GMT -6
I'm not even engaged. And I'm a bit behind you, Ridley.
I'd take Erin & Charlotte's advice, because it's true. Erin's is a bit funny, with the Grandkids part, but it still puts your life in perspective, does it not?
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Post by The Animal on Oct 6, 2006 9:23:35 GMT -6
The actual quote is "What comes around goes around...". And when you spell come c-u-m, it takes on a whole new meaning... I'm not sure what Charlotte is saying, I'm never sure what Charlotte is saying (I love you, Char.  ), but I think the gist of it is not to rush your life. Or something. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2006 13:19:06 GMT -6
It's just...I'm so overwhelmed with life right now. Midterms are next week. My guy is all talking about me having to leave my religion if I want to stay with him.. yea right. I do want to have kids I guess. I am just so tired of following the mold, and never feeling adequate enough to fill it.
I'm not saying that i don't love my life. It's great. I've got everything I could possibly need. I suppose I sound like a whiney baby don't I....
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Post by robin morbid on Oct 6, 2006 13:26:57 GMT -6
you don't...a lot of people are going what you're going through.
I have mideterms coming up soon as well so at least with that we can relate...it's tough but you can get through that,just relax,study,get enough sleep and you'll be fine.
As for your guy...he has no right to tell you what to believe in and if he tries to then he's not worth it at all...your beliefs are your own and you don't have to abandon those beliefs of some thingy tells you to.
Want me to deck him?
You don't need to feel adequate for anyone else but yourself.Don't set your standards so high,do things because you want to do them and not because someone else tells you to.
mmk?
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Post by The Animal on Oct 8, 2006 14:38:31 GMT -6
Exactly. As for your boyfriend, I'd make a comment, but the sheer audacity of his actions just makes me angry. How dare he!?
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Post by robin morbid on Oct 8, 2006 21:22:12 GMT -6
want me to take care of him?
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Post by The Animal on Oct 9, 2006 11:05:47 GMT -6
Oh, please let her, Ridley. She's got her own mafia.
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Post by robin morbid on Oct 9, 2006 15:08:38 GMT -6
nah,my people can stand back on this one...this guy comes off as a chump,I could take him on my own.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2006 13:56:02 GMT -6
Aww annie you would protect me like that? Have I become like, the forum sweetheart that everyone wants to protect? lol |
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Post by robin morbid on Oct 11, 2006 21:36:04 GMT -6
could be :-P
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Post by tracey on Nov 3, 2006 20:46:11 GMT -6
im confused
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Post by The Animal on Nov 3, 2006 22:36:07 GMT -6
Okay, Ridley was having some profound confusion about where she's at in life and what she wants to do (or something like that). We gave her our two-cents. Her a**wipe of a boyfriend was asking her to abandon her beliefs to be with him.
And Annie has a mafia. Any questions?
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Post by robin morbid on Nov 13, 2006 12:03:59 GMT -6
wooohooo!
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), but I think the gist of it is not to rush your life. Or something.